Lately, I’ve been thinking about attitude versus character – which one shows who we really are? In our daily lives, we face so many situations, big and small, and most of the time our attitude shows first. It’s that quick reaction, the instant emotion that pops out when something unexpected happens. But as the situation continues, our character reveals itself – not in the first reaction, but in how we choose to handle what comes after.
For example, think about being stuck in traffic. You get irritated, you complain, you maybe even honk a little. That’s attitude-a sudden reaction to stress. But then you find out there’s a road crash ahead, something no one can control. That’s when character steps in. Do you calm down and adjust, or do you keep ranting even when you already know the situation can’t be helped?
I realized this same thing in my own life, especially in family situations. Recently, I had an issue with my mother. She’s diabetic, and even though she knows it’s risky, she ate sweets late at night. When I reminded her gently not to overdo it, she got upset and went on a mini hunger strike -refusing proper meals and eating only boiled kamote. At that moment, I saw more than just a temporary attitude. It showed her character- her stubbornness, her emotional reactions, and how she sometimes uses guilt when she feels frustrated. And honestly, it wasn’t easy for me. Moments like that can easily push you to lose your temper. But I reminded myself to stay calm. I didn’t argue, didn’t give in to emotional blackmail. I just made sure food was available and let her make her own choices. Not because I’m trying to look good but because I’ve learned to protect my peace and react in a way that won’t drain me.
It made me remember another moment years ago with my youngest child. He was in the hospital after surgery, and suddenly his hemoglobin dropped. The attending doctor didn’t order a CBC right away, and I felt the panic and frustration rising. But even then, I tried to hold myself together. I didn’t lash out. I explained what I noticed and asked another doctor to check him. It was a tough moment, but my response mattered more than my fear.
All these experiences taught me that attitude is quick, it happens in seconds. But character stays. It’s what shows up again and again, especially in difficult moments.
We all have emotional reactions. We all get irritated, scared, stressed, or frustrated. That’s normal. But who we are is shaped by what we do after that first reaction fades. That’s when character speaks.
Attitude reacts. Character responds. And life will always give us chances to see the difference.
~ Nodz
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