maturity |

Reflections on change, understanding, and emotional maturity.

As we grow older, life doesn’t just change us physically — it reshapes us emotionally. The way we respond, connect, and interpret things evolves with every experience we go through. Aging isn’t simply about the passing of years, but about how time teaches us to manage emotions, relationships, and expectations. Yet, not everyone grows in the same way — some become calmer and wiser, while others grow more guarded or resistant.

I’ve made a quiet habit of observing how people respond in conversations — especially during conflict or discomfort. It’s not manipulation; it’s curiosity. I notice who listens before speaking, who becomes defensive, and who turns a simple question into confrontation. Those reactions reveal something deeper — how far they’ve come emotionally. They guide me in deciding how much of myself I can give, how open I can be, or when it’s better to step back. Some people meet you with calm understanding; others with walls built from different reasons — past wounds, fears, or emotional pride. And maybe that’s what emotional maturity truly is: recognizing which battles are worth entering and which are better left in silence.

I’ve been away for almost two decades from the crowd I grew up with. I wasn’t there to see how they changed or who they became over the years. When I finally blended in with them again, I realized I had to adjust — not just to them, but to how time had shaped us differently. I thought things would naturally align with how I’ve changed over the years, with the kind of calm and perspective I’ve been trying to live by. But I found myself frustrated, unable to deal with the changes around me. That’s when I realized it wasn’t them I needed to fix — it was my understanding that needed to grow.

The years I spent away — almost two decades — molded me deeply. Life taught me lessons the hard way, yet those challenges became my greatest teachers. They opened my mind and shaped the person I’ve become today. Still, I know growth never really ends; there will always be more to learn.

Looking back, I realize that emotional maturity isn’t about having everything figured out — it’s about staying open, even when things no longer feel familiar. It’s learning to meet people where they are, not where we expect them to be. Time may change the way we see the world, but growth is in how gently we choose to understand it — and each other.

Sometimes, I still wish to find someone who could meet me halfway — to understand where I’m coming from. But maybe that’s no longer meant to happen, and that’s alright. Writing and sharing my reflections has simply become my way of reaching out — hoping that in some small way, they might help someone see things differently, whether in a deep or simple way.

~Nodz